Bob Finley, is a program manager for Cisco in Seattle. With his wife, he owns his dream house on Mercer Island. He wanted to experience a lot of personal change and self discovery in his 45th year.
I have five big plans. One of them is to get right on with the 49th. Between my workouts and my commute, the 70 percent of time I'm awake, I should be in that feeling and helping me channel my energy into more productive changes. I don't have the luxury of waiting for 50.
I lost my vision and my power steering in a car accident in college. I just want to do whatever I can for that not to be a problem.
My other big plan is to be healthy. This works for me because my current circle of friends are connected to others, too. I want to explore new experiences like a hike at Squaw Pass, with its rock formations and sheer cliffs, or going to Seattle for a men's race. Every new challenge will push me in my personal development.
My third plan is to be physically active. I also don't have time to keep moving around; I play golf on the weekends and read and watch TV during the week.
My fourth plan is to be better to my family and friends. I want to do the things I can now that I didn't used to be able to do. In my family, I'm a rule follower. Now I'm the rule breaker. I can be myself when I'm with my family. I never could in school.
My fifth plan is to get my bike on the road once a week. I really want to ride my bike to work. I work at a call center for Cisco. It's the first time I've worked every day for three years, and I want to do all that I can to put time into my body. So I'm on the road for 30 to 40 minutes a day. At one point I couldn't see anything I was on my bike, my right eye was open. I said to my wife, "I need to go home." And she said, "You need to get home for coffee." I thought, "How am I going to have coffee?" It took a while, but I did.
It's been a good three years since I can't see. The neurological things I have going on are almost gone. But the psychological things I have are still intact. I still don't know if I'll be able to go to the gym or go climb a mountain. You never know.
Finally, I have to spend time with my children. I'm not a family guy. My oldest is 5 and my second is 1. I want to have some meaningful time with them. And this year, after 50, I want to get closer to my brother, who's 76.
My plan is that I'll move on in 2021.