Mindfulness learning is a process of maintaining attention where your attention is open to the world around you, rather than disinterested, or passive, or addicted to whatever is going on in the middle of your attention.

This can be done by allowing yourself to notice what is going on around you and be present in your response to it.

The difference between being mindful and being mindful is being present.

Does your attention not jump from what you are seeing and hearing to what you are thinking and feeling? Do you stare and observe, and do not “participate” in what you are seeing and hearing?

Do you sit, keeping your attention open to what is happening in the world, and in you?

For example, now try this:

Dissonance: right now see and hear things.

Verbal Dissonance: see and hear things.

Nonverbal Dissonance: see and hear things.

In this context, the words and thoughts you are seeing and hearing come from a place you cannot choose to be present in, no matter how intensely you want to be.

These messages are “delivered” to you from the position of “someone else”.

We are dependent on the thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes of others to guide our behavior.

In this mental system, some of us tend to automatically pay attention to what is “needing to be”, rather than what is available to us.

Perhaps, in order to further strengthen my mental decision, I will suggest that you notice what is “not delivering” information to you.

Do you consciously see, hear and react to something in the moment, but then immediately think something else?

This, my friend, is Visual Dissonance.

Another example of this mental process would be to “hit pause” on any situation in order to go “into another state”.

In our morning when my sons come downstairs I notice that my focus on what is happening on the desktop continues, but I am no longer totally absorbed by what they are doing on the TV.

And this is Visual Dissonance.

To carry out this lesson, I plan to begin to engage myself in various states of thought, feeling and expression.

For example, today I plan to stop paying close attention to “what is demanding attention”, so that my attention can switch to the words and emotions I can feel instead.

This may involve my other senses as well, in order to create a state that keeps my awareness open, where I can be fully present in everything that is around me.

Let’s see, using my Headspace app I can learn to keep attention open.

And then we will be able to learn how to find moments where we can shift our attention from the demands of others, towards the thoughts, feelings and attitudes we can have on our own.

After all, it is time to re-acquire power in our mind.